If You're Unhappily Married, You Need To Do These 5 Things ASAP

Stop waiting.

I love statistics. I love being shocked by them and I get all gossipy in a "Did you know…..." teeth sucking kind of way.

So you can imagine the teeth sucking that was going on last week when I came across the following statistics: The majority of women remain in their marriage for an average of 5 years from the time they believe that the relationship has crossed from crisis point to dire straits.

Add that to the statistics that between 40-50% of couples will end up divorced, can you imagine how many truly unhappy couples that make up that percentage?

These are couples who have lost the ability to communicate without shouting, sulking or name calling.

How many evenings worldwide are spent in silence on the sofa either trying to avoid an argument or pleading for affection, love or understanding? How many couples right now are dreading bedtime, weekends and oh good Lord the holiday season?

If you throw...

7 Questions That Will Reveal The Brutal TRUTH About Your Marriage

Do you know your marriage as well as you think?

I’m a relationship coach and normally when people learn what I do, it sparks many conversations and even more questions. A lot of the time I sense they want to know what category their own marriage falls into.

They want reassurance that all is well on the home front or that what is going on for them currently is a normal part of married life.

Those who are very satisfied in their relationship tend to ask the most forthright questions, while those who have a sense that something is amiss are a little less willing to ask direct questions. They tend to allude to situations rather than ask outright.

There are many reasons for this, but most often when I manage to break in and gain their confidence, it's a sense of not wishing to face the truth.

There is a fear of admitting failure (society can make divorce seem like a failure), fear of actually having to take some...

Narcissists What The Experts Don't Want You To Know

Not every man who doesn’t concede to your wishes is a narcissist.

Not every relationship that breaks down does so because one partner is a narcissist.

Not every argument or misunderstanding is due to the other party being a narcissist.

If however, you are to pick up any article on relationships, you may feel that the whole world is full of narcissists.

The problem is, narcissism, or the media portrayal of it sells.

Here is the big news – we all have so-called narcissist traits, we need them to survive.  It can feel in moments of communication breakdown that the other party is displaying strong narcissist behaviour, but are they?

Or is it that, they like so many other (maybe including yourself) they haven’t been taught or don’t have the intuitive guidance on how to manage deep connections.

Could it be that fear of not being enough, being unlovable, not being worthy of love or some deep childhood trauma...