It is amazing. It works. I too am a reactionary person. When my husband talks to me I am almost always thinking of what he wants me to say in response. I realize now after working with you that I was NOT actively listening because I was trying to people please my husband with what he was expecting from talking with me rather than just listening and absorbing. It's wonderful. I have been to counseling with several different providers and never gotten this revelation.
I saw this headline on my news feed and it got me thinking!
Are you sabotaging the success and the depth of love you can feel with this simple thought "How will I make him understand......?"